In the news…who’s to blame?

Being a parent is hard. In fact, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But that’s not really saying much since I’m kinda lazy. I can admit that.

But on top of being the most difficult thing I have ever done, it is also the most important. I have heard every mom in the world say this but does everyone mean it?

I spend my days being a role model for her, regardless of if I try or not.

Audrey, this is how mommy is polite by saying “please” and “thank you”.

Audrey, this is how mommy pets the dogs nicely with soft hands.

Audrey, this is how mommy eats her snack with her mouth closed.

Audrey, this is how mommy goes peepee on the big potty.

But along with the good, our kids are also getting the bad. I can’t tell you how many times I get on Rutherford for watching his mouth…but in reality, it’s my mouth she copies more than anyones. The worst we’ve had has been me calling the cart at Babies R Us “crap” and she decided to call everything else in the store “crap” as well. In her defense, some of it was.

We, as parents, are raising little mirrors, mini me’s. If you’re going to be a wonderful, compassionate, level-headed asset to society, well so is your kid. But if you’re going to be a hate-filled, racist, disrespectful, raging a-hole, dredge on humanity…well, thank you very much for raising the next person to break into my car. My insurance company appreciates your contribution.

The reason I bring this up is because of what I saw today. Now it’s not often that I blog about current events (I stayed away from the Time cover controversy except on my Facebook page where I am a little more liberal), but this…not this I needed to address because I wanted to see what you guys thought.

Today my eyes were accosted by the video of a very nice older woman who spends her semi-retired life ensuring our middle school aged children make it safely to their destination via the big yellow school bus. Unfortunately, on this bus with her were the exact opposite of what I am trying to raise my daughter to be. On the bus with her with the type of kids I pray she rebukes, the type of kids I hope she finds repulsive and lame on the playground, the type of kids we are not raising her to be.

These kids bullied and taunted this poor woman for being “fat” until she cried and then harassed her for that, as well.

 

For 10 whole minutes. While being video taped by anther student.

That poor lady. (On a side note, there has been an outpouring of support for this woman and even a donation fund started, which at last check, totalled over $150,000.)

I have to say after watching the video, I have to commend her patience. I’m sorry but if your kid were doing this to me, I can’t guarantee I wouldn’t drop kick your kid. Not kidding. At all. And if it were my kid doing that to you, well, I give you full right to drop kid them, as well.

So whose fault is this, the parents or the kids…maybe both? Like I said, loving, attentive, involved parents don’t raise kids who think this is okay behavior. Now, I will say that good kids make mistakes but if you watch all 10 minutes of this video, you will see that this is not just a comment in poor taste or a little teasing made in a group situation. No, this is cruel, incessant, vicious bullying.

These kids, pardon my French, are assholes. And I can say this because they are old enough to know better. If you are old enough to know better but refuse to do better, you are an asshole, my friend.

Plain and simple.

Now, back to our question and I’m sure you can already see where I’m leaning. I whole heartedly see this as a parenting issue. So am I wrong? What would you do if this was your child? What type of punishment fits this crime? What would you do if this were YOU? Do you mind if I drop kick you kid if it is? (Just asking, just in case.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don’t really have a title for this one..

So this is my blog and I know I usually post on interesting stuff but this blog is also part diary for my to look back on when Audrey is grown and I forget how cute she used to be. So a few small facts about my kid right now..

#1. She’s obsessed with Toy Story and all that it entails. We have every toy, every movie, pajamas, shirts, shoes, you name it. If it has Buzz and pals on it, we own it. Unfortunately, these things don’t come in girl stuff so everything we have bought has been purchased from the boys department…and we are just fine with that.

#2. According to her older cousins Luke and Kyle, she is the best plane finder ever. The other day I walked by her room when she was supposed to be napping and all I heard was her screaming “PLANE!!” Apparently, there was a plane over our home. This happens EVERY time a plane flys over our house. Just so you know, we live between 2 busy airports. Sigh.

#3. She’s going through the sassy part of her terrible 2’s, on a related note, I want to lock myself in the bathroom often. The other day she raised her hand to hit me when she didn’t like what I was saying and I just looked at her and said “If you hit me, I will put you in time out and you won’t like it.” She smartly put her hand down but then hit herself on the leg over and over looking me straight in the eye and said “Stop it Mommy, you stop it!” I know that being a toddler means having no control over your emotions but this child is half me and half her father and if you know either of us personally you know that this child will spend her entire life learning to watch her mouth. Right now she is filter free and it’s sooooo not fun.

#4. The other day I left for an hour and when I got home Audrey was singing Crazy Train by Black Sabbath like in the Honda Pilot commercial. This is her father’s doing.

#5. Audrey is completely fearless. Water, dogs, bugs, people, animals, dark places, new places, everything, no fear at all. I envy her and and am completely freaked out by it at the same time.

I’m sure I could go on forever but this will do. I need a drink…and a babysitter…and a nap. Pretty much in that order.