Beating those baby blues: Survival tips for new moms

Beating those baby blues: Survival tips for new moms

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Motherhood is a joy. The moment your baby is born, you bundle the little cherub up into your arms and relish this new life that you have brought into the world. Your life will never be the same again, and that is a good thing. Baby is here, and your excitement will be bubbling over. And then the baby blues hit! You are fretful and anxious one moment and crying the next. Surely you shouldn’t be feeling this way; not when you have a bouncing baby to cheer you up! However, the baby blues are normal and affect most new moms. With chemical and hormonal changes in your body after pregnancy, these changes in your mood can be expected. Generally, they only last a few days until your mind and body restore to somewhere near normality, and life will go on as usual – well, with the addition of diapers, feeding schedules, and topsy-turvy sleep patterns.

While you shouldn’t worry unnecessarily about the baby blues, you can still do something to alleviate the problem. In this article, we will give you some survival tips, getting you out of that postpartum slump and reducing the fears and sad thoughts that are common to many new mothers.

Remember you are not perfect – and that is okay!

A large part of the anxiety you will be feeling is from the stress that you don’t know what you are doing. Still, you need to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect mother, no matter how much of an act other mom’s put on around you. Every new mom goes through the same worries, but it’s all part of a learning curve. Know that you aren’t perfect and you will feel better about yourself. Take as much advice as you can by all means, but don’t panic if you don’t bond with your baby straight away or you struggle to stop them from crying. This is motherhood, and it will get easier, eventually!

Surround yourself with helpful people

Remember those so-called ‘perfect’ moms who act as if they know all there is to know about child rearing? Ditch them, especially if they are making you feel inadequate with their pesky advice and eye-rolling facial expressions. In these sensitive first few days of motherhood, you need people who are going to lift you up, not bring you down. Only invite the people who love and care about you to your bedside or home, and instruct your partner to keep at bay anybody who is going to overwhelm you with their negativity.

Be realistic about your bodily changes

You have just been through pregnancy, so your body is going to change, no matter how you looked beforehand. Your breasts will grow, you will put on weight, and you will be tormented by stretch marks. These physical changes are perfectly normal, and your body will get back to its normal state eventually. Still, it is panic about the body that can fuel those difficult emotions after baby is born. You can do something about it, of course. You can apply stretch mark prevention cream during your pregnancy, as well as some healthy doses of exercise. Then after the baby has arrived, you can focus on a healthy diet under the guidance of a nutritionist, and take a mother and baby fitness class. It may take a while to restore your body to its original state, but you don’t need to worry unduly.

Take time out to pamper yourself

Guess what – you are not Wonder Woman, so you don’t have to be on call 24/7. There are times when you will need to rest and focus on yourself, so it’s perfectly okay to ask your partner or trusted friends or relatives to watch the baby for a while. You deserve to feel good – you have been through the ordeal of giving birth after all! So, pamper yourself doing the things you enjoy, be that taking a nice long soak in the bath or spending a chill-out evening with your friends, and don’t feel guilty about it. Provided your baby is in safe hands, you can relax and enjoy time alone or with others, turning your baby blue frown upside down!

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Spend time out of the house occasionally

Particularly if your partner is at work during the day, you can become very isolated and lonely at home, despite the company of your baby. Those four walls will creep in on you, and your low mood will only be exacerbated. So, do yourself a favor (and your baby) and get out of the house. A stroll around your local area will keep your fitness levels up, and that, combined with the fresh air, will start to increase the feel-good chemicals in your brain. Spend time visiting friends too, and if you know any other new moms, visit them and cheer up their day as well.

Talk about how you are feeling

You’re a new mom, and you are supposed to be upbeat, excited, and full of gushing love for your little one. Aren’t you? Maybe, but you don’t have to be. Don’t put on an act (like those other moms) if you aren’t feeling great. Let people know how you feel, and vent your anxieties and sad thoughts to them. There are support groups available where you will meet other moms in a similar position to yourself. Your partner should also be available to offer you an encouraging arm, and there may be family members you can offload your thoughts to. In short, you don’t need to be alone, and as the saying goes, a worry shared is a worry halved!

Speak to your doctor for advice

The baby blues should only last for a few weeks. However, if you are still feeling low after a couple of months, you should see your doctor. You may have postnatal depression, and this can have negative effects on your life if it goes untreated. Your doctor will probably offer you some form of medication or suggest a self-help treatment to you, so you won’t have to suffer from the condition for long if this is the case.


If you have been suffering from the baby blues, we hope this article has been of use. Share it with other new moms, and if you have any tips that we haven’t covered, please let us know.





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