5 more examples you should be setting for your children

5 more examples you should be setting for your children

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Teaching children in a way that encourages positive development and prepares them for adult life is top of every parent’s agenda. And it always will be.

The previous ‘5 examples you should be setting your children’ post certainly laid the foundation. Now let’s take things to the next level with another five life lessons that should be encouraged by all loving parents.

Financial Organization

While you’ll want to teach kids that money isn’t everything, it’s vital that kids learn to respect it. Financial responsibility is a great asset that will serve them well for many years to come. Lead by example by regaining control of your situation. Debt consolidation loans from Buddy loans are a great example while lowering monthly expenses helps too. On a separate note, pocket money and paid chores can be used to highlight the ideas of working for money and budgeting.

Caring For Others

Teaching children to love themselves is crucial, but they needn’t be selfish. A sense of compassion for others is a winning personality trait for anyone to possess. Getting a pet teaches kids to love for another being while also taking responsibility. However, you should also look at charitable events and worthy causes as a way to get them thinking about those less fortunate. When combined with recycling and other ideas that are designed to help the earth, your kids will reap the rewards.

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The Love Of Learning

An excellent education is something that all kids deserve. In truth, though, their attitude towards learning will have a huge impact on what they get out of it. Showing children the enjoyable side of learning can start at a very early age with educational tools from the Clever Crocodile. When kids are interacting with those things in a fun manner, they’ll get far more from it. This can include extra learning with music and other items. When supported by reward schemes, you can’t go wrong.

Politeness

Communication has already been covered in the previous post. But you should also teach your son or daughter to be polite at all times. It doesn’t cost anything to have good manners by saying “please” and “thank you”. Table manners and other features can come later on. Having respect for others is vital too. Keep this in mind when communicating with your friends in front of the kids. Otherwise, the little rude quips that you say with affection could send mixed signals to your child.

Never Give Up

Resilience is a key skill for any child to learn. The ability to bounce back can often make the difference between success and failure, not least because life is filled with obstacles. Helping kids to develop a strong mindset will instantly put them ahead of most and can also work wonders for their sense of self-confidence. This attribute is something they will learn from you, however. So, in addition to saying the right things, it’s vital that you lead by example at home and work.

In the news…who’s to blame?

Being a parent is hard. In fact, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But that’s not really saying much since I’m kinda lazy. I can admit that.

But on top of being the most difficult thing I have ever done, it is also the most important. I have heard every mom in the world say this but does everyone mean it?

I spend my days being a role model for her, regardless of if I try or not.

Audrey, this is how mommy is polite by saying “please” and “thank you”.

Audrey, this is how mommy pets the dogs nicely with soft hands.

Audrey, this is how mommy eats her snack with her mouth closed.

Audrey, this is how mommy goes peepee on the big potty.

But along with the good, our kids are also getting the bad. I can’t tell you how many times I get on Rutherford for watching his mouth…but in reality, it’s my mouth she copies more than anyones. The worst we’ve had has been me calling the cart at Babies R Us “crap” and she decided to call everything else in the store “crap” as well. In her defense, some of it was.

We, as parents, are raising little mirrors, mini me’s. If you’re going to be a wonderful, compassionate, level-headed asset to society, well so is your kid. But if you’re going to be a hate-filled, racist, disrespectful, raging a-hole, dredge on humanity…well, thank you very much for raising the next person to break into my car. My insurance company appreciates your contribution.

The reason I bring this up is because of what I saw today. Now it’s not often that I blog about current events (I stayed away from the Time cover controversy except on my Facebook page where I am a little more liberal), but this…not this I needed to address because I wanted to see what you guys thought.

Today my eyes were accosted by the video of a very nice older woman who spends her semi-retired life ensuring our middle school aged children make it safely to their destination via the big yellow school bus. Unfortunately, on this bus with her were the exact opposite of what I am trying to raise my daughter to be. On the bus with her with the type of kids I pray she rebukes, the type of kids I hope she finds repulsive and lame on the playground, the type of kids we are not raising her to be.

These kids bullied and taunted this poor woman for being “fat” until she cried and then harassed her for that, as well.

 

For 10 whole minutes. While being video taped by anther student.

That poor lady. (On a side note, there has been an outpouring of support for this woman and even a donation fund started, which at last check, totalled over $150,000.)

I have to say after watching the video, I have to commend her patience. I’m sorry but if your kid were doing this to me, I can’t guarantee I wouldn’t drop kick your kid. Not kidding. At all. And if it were my kid doing that to you, well, I give you full right to drop kid them, as well.

So whose fault is this, the parents or the kids…maybe both? Like I said, loving, attentive, involved parents don’t raise kids who think this is okay behavior. Now, I will say that good kids make mistakes but if you watch all 10 minutes of this video, you will see that this is not just a comment in poor taste or a little teasing made in a group situation. No, this is cruel, incessant, vicious bullying.

These kids, pardon my French, are assholes. And I can say this because they are old enough to know better. If you are old enough to know better but refuse to do better, you are an asshole, my friend.

Plain and simple.

Now, back to our question and I’m sure you can already see where I’m leaning. I whole heartedly see this as a parenting issue. So am I wrong? What would you do if this was your child? What type of punishment fits this crime? What would you do if this were YOU? Do you mind if I drop kick you kid if it is? (Just asking, just in case.)